A lovely wedding does not necessarily need a big budget, but it does require elaborate preparation. And, yeah, wedding preparation is not a walk in the park. It is easy to be disappointed especially if things are not going your way. This is especially true when you are trying to achieve your vision, but something is limiting you or makes it impossible to achieve.
Matters like these are the very reason why some couples are at the brink of calling the wedding off in the height of their preparations. Stress and pressure are heavy on the shoulders so why don’t you take a break and read on how you can manage yourself while you are in the middle of wedding preparation.
1. Stay on your vision and do not feel that you need to give in to what others demand from you. If you prefer an intimate wedding, but you or your partner’s family insist that you should have a big one, be firm. After all, it is your wedding and makes them understand in a gentle way that you are not comfortable having a vast wedding crowd.
2. Learn and agree to compromise. While you need to stay true to your vision, it will not hurt to meet other persons involved in the wedding halfway—especially if this includes your would-be spouse. If he wants an outdoor wedding and you want a formal one, then having an elegant garden wedding will satisfy both of you.
What does not kill you will make you stronger
3. Take a breather. If it gets overwhelming—as it usually does—it is fine to take some moments off. Drop that wedding checklist and go shopping, have fun with the girls, or just simply that bubble bath. Give yourself some time to recharge and regroup, and when you are fresh and have more energy, you may go back to the grind.
4. Think of the wedding preparation as your on-the-job training for the real thing. The wedding is your entrance to the married life and, eventually, family life. Problems will be a level higher then but if you are able to pull off your wedding, you can surely solve any marriage or family problems.
5. Last, but not the least, you can plan for the most elaborate wedding that you can imagine, but expect the unexpected. There will be mishaps along the way but at the end, what spells the difference between a successful and a failed wedding is how you look at things that went wrong. Will it ruin your day if a flower girl tripped while walking down the aisle? Will you lose sleep over a white table cloth that should be ivory?
Always remember that the wedding is not the be-all and end-all. Something greater comes after the wedding and it will need all of your energy, patience, and passion.